There is Only One Way to Win a Fight
Movies often depict fist fights as logical, sometimes even necessary, ways to settle arguments. Usually the winner walks away untouched, while the loser merely suffers a black eye and a headache.
The truth is that it NEVER happens that way in real life! People get seriously injured, hospitalised, sent to jail and sometimes they even die. Even when you win, you lose, the repercussions from disagreements or fights can come back to haunt you at anytime.
We need to know how to ‘NOT FIGHT’ as well as how to defend ourselves. The only fight we will ever win is the one we are able to avoid.
Studies have shown that most people who are the victims of violent crimes send out some sort of ‘signal’ saying that they are vulnerable. Their body language conveys the idea that they are weak and easily intimidated.
Other studies involving people who are frequently involved with verbal or physical altercations show that these people send out signals of arrogance and disrespect.
The solution is simple. lf we present ourselves in a confident and respectful manner; we are less likely to attract trouble. It is well known that martial arts teaches the physical techniques of self defence but more importantly it develops a strong self esteem, self confidence, courtesy and respect.
Communicating with Confidence
What are the signals that an insecure person sends out?
- shoulders hunched forward
- eyes cast downward, afraid to make eye contact.
- soft, faltering speech
- walking as though they are not sure where they are going
What are the signals that a “confident” person sends out?
- good posture.
- look people in the eye, especially when first meeting someone.
- speak clearly and confidently (but not arrogantly).
- walk with purpose, as if they know where they are going.
- appear alert and aware of their surroundings.
Understanding the signals of a ‘confident person’ and making them your own is the first step to reducing your risk of assault. The ability to communicate with confidence and respect allows you the best chance to deal effectively and peacefully when an unavoidable confrontation arises.